Why is it alright for black men to father babies and not be a father to them?

Why is it alright for black men to father babies and not be a father to them? Why is alright for black women to have multiple babies by different men out of wedlock and complain that there are no decent black men? Why is it alright that black men drive the latest cars with rims and tv's in the headrest and live at home with their mother? Why is it alright that black women have fantasy requirements on meeting men(i.e. complexion, height, tool size) and when it's doesn't work out time and time again, complain again that there are no decent black men? Why do black men feel it's alright to lay up on women and family and not work? Why do black women make excuses for their significant other and allow him to lie up and not work? Why do black men blame white people for all their ills and not work towards a solution? Why do black women sometimes turn their back on black men during times when they need them the most?

I've been thinking about these questions and many more like them so I just wanted to share my thoughts. These are general thoughts and doesn't go out to the entire black race which I'm very proud to be a part of but to a chosen few....